Hi willbewell! You are getting stronger - i sense it in your posts as of late. And you can only continue to do so when you continue to move forward. Thank you for your love and encouragement WBW- it always means so much to me to hear from you x
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
busting, Mourning is unique for each person. Some mourn rather quickly and others mourn for a long time. It's all up to you and what you are feeling on any given day. Some days, when you think you have moved on, something will remind you of what you experienced long ago w/your h and you might be sad for a minute or you may smile, but that memory will not pain you as much as it does now. Give yourself some time to heal. Like MLC, you can't flip a switch to turn it on and off, nor can you rush the process.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
busting, I have been thinking about some of what you are posting. it is so confusing when they are nice and normal one minute and seem not to care the next. We wait so patiently. Of course, we know they are confused. one thing you mentioned was moving to where he is only if it meant being togather as a family again.... As much as I would like my h to come back, I am beginning to see how much work that too will take. At this point I do not believe h is coming back for the kids or me. In fact, he is moving to another state in Sept. He is now very involved in his job, his life. would you go to where he is if he is not 100 percent in? I know what we want for our kids- an intact family. I would do just about anything to have that. Our h's have to decide that is what they want... Don't mean to discourage you. just food for thought. You and your h seem to have some good positive interactions. Take care friend. I am praying for the best for all of us.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
