I waited to post this and did not get back to this forum last night to post. I talked to my therapist about this first. It is awful!
H decided to have OW sleep with him in our house the other night while me and kids were home. He does not know that I know, and I got proof of it. Next time the fire alarm is going off, and he can explain it to the kids. a$$hole. I think he takes the cake on being stupid.
I am so sorry to hear this. That is so disrespectful to you, the children and to your marriage. Time to take care of Scooby and the kids.
Hang in there! It all takes time, but you will get to the other side.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
H decided to have OW sleep with him in our house the other night while me and kids were home. He does not know that I know,
What are you waiting for? I would tell him right now that you know he did that, that it is completely unacceptable, and that if it happens again you are calling the cops. End of story.
Yes, you are becoming stronger every day. Who knows what is going thru his head...maybe he wanted you to find out so that you would take action first. Your h is a piece of work.
Please do not let on to him that you are aware of what transpired. That's something you keep in your back pocket until you need something, i.e., like a bargaining chip.
Take care of yourself. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks everyone. I have people here with me most days as a buffer when kids are gone, so he does not monster. The 10 minutes we had no one today he was an a$$. Maybe I need to have friends stay the night too. UGH! I am done!
Scooby, Maybe it would be a good idea to have someone stay there at night. This man picks every opportunity to get on your case when there isn't anyone around. The verbal, emotional and mental abuse are awful and you don't deserve to be treated that way. Any documentation that you have, give it to your lawyer. Do not keep it in the house.
Be very careful if you opt to tell him about his behavior of last night. His monster mode/temper is something to be concerned about. When they are this way, they can't control themselves too well.
Protect yourself and your kids. It's important that you be careful around this jerk. If he gets to be too much of a monster, call the cops on him.
Thanks for the suggestions. I have documentation from day 1. My therapist said to journal as it helps. On the other site it has been suggested he has more than mlc. I know there is something mental, bit he stopped IC. Thankfully people in church, friends, and family have been very helpful. My lawyer has also been great, and this site. I cannot believe there still are great people out there. Too bad I married a lemon. Oh well. It has taught me a lot. I now know I am not to blame for his actions. He is the wrong one. I did nothing to deserve this treatment.
Survived another day in crazy, paranoid land. It is more nerve racking when mlcer tries to be nice, you know it is no good. Oh yeah, I c the tape recorder you have. U am so done with the nonsense. Garbage is treated better than I have been. Oh well. Looking forward to the future!
Do you have any plans for the weekend? If not, plan to do something that gets you out of the house for a bit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
