I am so sorry to hear this. That is so disrespectful to you, the children and to your marriage. Time to take care of Scooby and the kids.

Hang in there! It all takes time, but you will get to the other side.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.