I've only read the last few posts, but a couple of things stood out to me - H has been nicer to you than he has been in years, and, you have gained enough strength and confidence to speak more directly to him about what you need (at least in terms of boundaries).
How did these two things happen? With the first it will be speculation, but it's worthwhile to speculate why something has improved. In particular, what has WH been doing differently that MAY have influenced a better response? We're not responsible for other people's behavior, but we do want to use our influence in positive ways, and it seems you have done this. Of course, the "H must want something" may be part of it, but maybe it is tied more to the strength and confidence that you have grown (and displayed) that invites more kindness.
It's worth considering. If you're doing something well, let yourself enjoy the fruits of it!
Hang in there!
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