Spiff do you want her back? if so there is a but load of great info here...read sandys 37 rules...very good road map. I think by removing your self from the game of chicken would be a good start.
Me: 42 W: 39 D: 2 age 6 and 9 D-Day: Dec 29 13 Seperated: 3/20/14 Mediation retainer : 5/20/14 She filed: 06/25/14