He is very wise indeed. And he went through something very similar with his own wife...arguably worse I guess, since his situation was exacerbated by his wife carrying on an affair. Although he did say he can't remember his W ever using the word "divorce".
Divorcebusting wasn't around back then either, so he had to figure it out on his own. In his case, he said he decided to own what he contributed to the breakdown, and dedicated himself to working on being the best man, father, and husband he could be. He told himself he would give it a year, and if he couldn't turn things around in that time he at least would be able to hold his head up high and know that he did what he could.
He and my MIL just recently celebrated their 30+ anniversary.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
