Thanks for the comments and encouragement rayzzz. Been catching up on your sitch and wishing the best for you.

This is hard stuff for sure. I have to remind myself that I do see the fruits of my labor, in that W hasn't left yet even though she both could have by now and says she intends to.

The group of neighbors around us have also remarked to me how much they enjoy "the new stumps" and how nice it's been hanging out with W and I. Kind of funny, because FIL let it slip last night that at some point before I started my GAL/180s, W told all the neighbors we were splitting up, and apparently they've come to him a couple of times scratching their heads trying to figure out what's going on since they're having such a great time hanging out with us... and we've even run into a couple of them when we were out on one of our date nights and they sort of slyly remarked what a happy couple we looked like.

A couple of the neighbors have even kind of tested the waters with me when W wasn't around by remarking that they know W isn't perfect and they notice how much I do with the kids and around the house, etc. I haven't taken the bait though. W may want to make all this public, but I don't feel the need to. I'm letting my actions speak for themselves. Especially because FIL has said that he feels like W has dug herself into a hole by announcing to everyone she was moving out and divorcing me, and then sticking around to enjoy the new me.

H: 43
W: 37
M: 11 years
T: 12 years
S: 11
D: 8
ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14
MC started: 9/22/14
Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14
Piecing: 10/20/14