Some people are difficult to figure out and that is what I see with your W. GAL and move on. My H who will be xH soon, won't communicate honestly and I don't have closure either. After the big D is when he'll probably want to do his big discussion since he'll feel safe not being married. I'm not going to give him the satisfaction due to his lack of compassion, fear of commitment and how he abandoned me in many ways, including financial. DBing didn't work for me and I see though it can work for some after the big D. I wish you the best.
