So heres a convo me and her had.. please tell me if what I did right and what I said wrong.
4/06 12:36] ☆me☆: Btw If ur annoyed about the book ill stop reading it.. I swear to god I got it like a day ago wen I went mums.. I only read up page 45 I think n at that point the book just explains why people end up getting divorced and the consequences it brings.. theres a large bit of the book that brings out what to do but I havnt got to that point.. and I dont think I should.. I want you to be with me for the person I am and what I do not what a book tells me.. the counsellor I spoke to heard what I had to say for half hr n gave me advice for 15 mins which was basically to look after myself and prepare for divorce as if it works it works if not then im prepared. N I knew this already so I neva done it again just wasted my money. [04/06 12:37] ☆me☆: Im sorry and I understand that if you divorce me theres nothing I can do and I accept that.. I just want to make you happy.. [04/06 12:39] ☆her☆: Its ur book do what u want u bought it would be a waste of money if u dnt read it but thats up to u.. [04/06 12:39] ☆me☆: I got it 2nd hand on ebay for 2.99 [04/06 12:40] ☆her☆: I dnt kno hu u r anymore ☆me☆ i dnt even kno myself nemore.. All i kno is i hate were i am ryt now in life.. [04/06 12:40] ☆her☆: I wish we hadnt rushed into this marriage i wish i could go back [04/06 12:40] ☆me☆: I know bbe [04/06 12:41] ☆me☆: Its up to hun what you wanna do... [04/06 12:41] ☆her☆: Easier sed the dne [04/06 12:44] ☆me☆: If you decide to leave me and go theres nothing I will do to stop you.. if you stay then you would have to accept me trying to make you happy.. and if you do I wish you could work with me to rebuild a new relationship.. I dont want to be in the marriage we had before.. I wana be in a new marriage and a new relationship but with the same person [04/06 12:46] ☆her☆: New marriage new relationship same person is not possible things just dnt work that way... Too much has happened to be forgotten.. U trying and becoming this new person is not hu i fell in love with [04/06 12:46] ☆me☆: I want you to be your own person I wna get to know you all over again but I also know you dont want to be with me no more so I cant force it or anything [04/06 12:48] ☆her☆: Iv changed ☆me☆ im not the same person nemore... Completely changed dnt no if u see it.. I just feel ur better off with someone else someone hu u dnt have to become this whole new person for which isnt you being urself [04/06 12:51] ☆me☆: I know you have hun.. I see it.. and I accept it.. im doing it for myself bbe.. I took a deep thought and really looked back at who I was and felt disgusted.. your just someone thats gonna benefit from it.. [04/06 12:56] ☆me☆: Maybe this is something that god is testing us on.. and we have to get through.. whoever you changed into I want to get to know.. I like how u r now than how u were before. And like I said I accept it and accept you. [04/06 13:00] ☆her☆: But i dnt wana b this person dat i am.. [04/06 13:01] ☆me☆: Who do you want to be? [04/06 13:01] ☆her☆: I dint no just not this [04/06 13:01] ☆me☆: ☆her☆ end of the day when I married you I made a commitment to stick with you through thick and thin.. It doesnt matter who you are bbe.. I will always accept you for you who are [04/06 13:01] ☆her☆: Out of everything i just wana be left alone [04/06 13:02] ☆her☆: I dnt care abt this commitment we made a mistake this marriage is a mistake i dnt ever see myself forgetting everythin thats happened... [04/06 13:03] ☆me☆: I understand hun I rly do.. its up to you bbe.. I cant say or do anything to change your mind thats down on you [04/06 13:05] ☆me☆: I dont want to hurt you bbe I rly dont and I never would.. I rather hurt myself than cause you any harm and if you tell me to go ill go [04/06 13:06] ☆me☆: I care about you a lot bbe [04/06 13:06] ☆her☆: The pain that u caused will never go away its the reason for me being numb i can never forget it... So to me no matter what u do or what sumone else does i will never trust/love anyone again [04/06 13:07] ☆me☆: I understand that and your right the pain will be there.. but you also have to understand it does heal in time.. even though it doesnt seem like it right now [04/06 13:08] ☆me☆: The thing is you just have to let it happen n try [04/06 13:08] ☆me☆: But I know you dont want to do that [04/06 13:08] ☆her☆: Ur ryt i dont [04/06 13:08] ☆me☆: And I understand that but its for your benefit hun n im only trying to help you [04/06 13:09] ☆her☆: U think ur helping me but really ur not ur tryna ease the pain u cant help me not until i dnt help myself [04/06 13:10] ☆me☆: Then help yourself bbe [04/06 13:10] ☆her☆: i cant [04/06 13:10] ☆me☆: You can ☆her☆ you just have to let it happen [04/06 13:10] ☆me☆: Trust me bbe we can get past this I promise you this [04/06 13:10] ☆her☆: Let what happen ☆me☆???????? U dnt get it [04/06 13:11] ☆her☆: I dnt wana be in this nemre [04/06 13:11] ☆me☆: Then you dont have to [04/06 13:11] ☆me☆: Do whats best for you bbe [04/06 13:11] ☆me☆: Obviously whatever I say will sound selfish n sound like im thinking of myswlf by keeping you but I honestly am not [04/06 13:12] ☆me☆: I wnt us to be happy together [04/06 13:12] ☆me☆: Just try to think with a open mind [04/06 13:12] ☆me☆: Whatever you decide to do ill support it [04/06 13:13] ☆her☆: U dnt get it [04/06 13:14] ☆me☆: Maybe I dont.. but from what I understand n briefly saying this.. you feel its too complicated.. u feel you cant forget the hurt and you feel you would be happier by yourself and it makes you feel like getting it more thus making you feel like you dont want this anymore [04/06 13:14] ☆me☆: Pardon me if im wrong [04/06 13:15] ☆me☆: Let me ask you.. do you think it can ever work between us? Honestly [04/06 13:16] ☆me☆: Both us trying? [04/06 13:16] ☆her☆: No [04/06 13:16] ☆me☆: Ok then I have nothing left to say [04/06 13:21] ☆me☆: Decide what you want to do.. but dont tell me your not good for me because I know what I want...
