Good morning everyone,
I've come to a turning point with my W. I'm no longer as angry when I have to deal with her. It's more like I feel like I'm speaking to a child of 15. Old enough to know what's right, too young not to be selfish. I told her that one of the problems I had with the D petition (she had to keep asking when I said that was between the lawyers!) is that her car is on there as separate property. There is no way it could ever be considered SP. She says "I don't know why we just can't each keep our cars (hers is $10,000 more and has less than 50K miles, mine has 150,000+ miles!). I just told her that for it to be SP you have to have paid for it or been given it. No response from her. I also told her that her P states she will be primary custody and have final say in our D's permanent address. This one she knew she had put on. she says "I would never do anything that wasn't best for D." I didn't say this but... Well, first off, what you are doing just by getting D isn't what's best for her. The fact that you now have made certain that she CAN'T go to the school her sister did for what? Because your daddy told you to do this?

I told her that of course she feels that way but we may not agree and I'm sure there will be times that we won't agree on things and the way it's written she will have the final say. YOU told me that it wasn't written that way. She agreed that we will disagree at times but just shrugged it off and said "Too late now". I don't have money for food and she still lives here and all you can say is "Too late now" when it's costing $2500. It's like the $200 she cost me by not telling me she wasn't going to have her pay go into our joint account. She is like this overly nice DMV worker who keeps telling you you have to file this OTHER form after you already filed 100 forms. Just keeps smiling and being nice and saying nonsense and acting like she has done nothing at all wrong. Then she says I should just get a min wage job part time so I can pay for gas to go to my start up job! Min wage? I have made 6 figures most of the last 15 years while she refused to go back to work after the kids were in school and she wants me to get a min wage job because she wants to cut me off?

This morning she actually had the guts to ask me again for a favor! She wants me to call her car finance people about a problem with her bill. What the heck is wrong with her? what goes through her head. Why does she think that she can cut me off and still I will help her? We aren't a team anymore by her choice. She is just so used to me being there, doing things for her. She has no clue how to run a household. No clue what it will really be like to have no one but yourself to count on. I didn't get angry. I just calmly said I hadn't done that as she said she was getting a new loan. (She had asked if I had done it). She said no that it was different. Is this normal for MLCers that they think we should still be there and help them and do things for them but that they have no responsibility to do the same and not even show any affection but tell us we're not good enough for them while they ask? Would she ask a stranger who she hasn't just filed a lawsuit against to do her a favor?

Crazy how she is acting but hard because I need to not need ANYTHING from her! I so wish that things would have changed by now but nothing worked with her that I tried. Today I will cross a couple more things off my list and get myself some money!