Stop trying to rescue her. If you didn't do it, then it's none of your business.
She's going to say it's because I have been on these sites etc..everything is always my fault. I think one of the OM friends did it. Why not destroy her career and force her to leave sooner!?
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
If you try to have it removed, YOU will seem like the guilty one. You have nothing to hide. There's one very important thing to remember... SHE WILL BLAME YOU FOR ANYTHING BAD THAT HAPPENS TO HER NO MATTER WHAT!
This is a consequence of her actions. Stop getting involved. All of this comes with detachment. If you try to have it removed, there will be something else that comes up and she will blame you for that and everything.
Stop thinking of her and start thinking of YOU and your children.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Oh and if she accuses you of writing that, put your hand up before she goes too far and tell her that you did not write it and will not be blamed for it. That you're sorry that she's being smeared that way, but it is not any of your doing and that it's a result of her actions and not yours. Then walk away.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Oh and if she accuses you of writing that, put your hand up before she goes too far and tell her that you did not write it and will not be blamed for it. That you're sorry that she's being smeared that way, but it is not any of your doing and that it's a result of her actions and not yours. Then walk away.
Excellent Advice !!!
Excellent!
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
Today I met with the IC that my wife sees. As I have stated before she was our MC last year. Now she is doing " relationship counseling" basically she does this for situations where a couple is in-house separated or coparenting.
She is a pro-marriage therapist and told my wife if it was up to her she would try to save us.
Truth is her focus now is two-fold , one is that we don't kill each other and/ or I don't have a nervous breakdown.
The second and Her main focus is the well being of my son. Even though he is not on the spectrum for Aspergers or Autism, we have been told by multiple specialists to treat him as if he is.
I told her I was ready to go plan B and just move out...she told me that would destroy my son, and that taking him with me or kicking her out right now is detrimental. She told me to basically do a DB 180 when WAW returns.
IC wants me to hang on for my son. IC told me to wait to see WAW reaction to me being in the Master Bedroom. She said if she no longer wants to share the bed, she needs to sleep elsewhere not me.
When I broached the subject of infidelity and the fact that this past Wednesday was the Jewish Holiday that is the day god gave Moses the Ten Commandments and she was in POSOM bed, I got an interesting revelation.
Apparently she WS said that she told the counselor that once she was " committed" with a ring to OM she felt it was ok to violate her marriage vows...the therapist believes that pos is such a pro with these quasi-religious woman that he knows that, hence the entire engagement thing...
It's all so twisted up in my mind that I feel like I am married to a mental patient.
Hence MC or IC, or RC...MY HEAD HURTS what ever she really is... Said at least try to get S16 through eleventh grade...but I need to GAL.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
Hers a question... Originally when she left for Israel I was going to be Plan A, then I was told to go to Plan B when she left... It's pretty impossible to stay in B when she returns... Do I try to text her or something while she's there. It's been 1.5 weeks no contact and I have heard that this can push someone closer to AP.
Out of site out of mind type stuff..
She had even said if she contacts me she has to sneak away from OM!
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
It's been 1.5 weeks no contact and I have heard that this can push someone closer to AP.
I think they are already as close and it can get!!! Look right now she is having her fun knowing her husband is hurt by it (she really doesn't care) and he won't go anywhere!! She will keep this up until the youngest graduates then off to Israel she goes and just visits the kids. Or he will continue this back and forth indefinitely!! He doesn't care...I'm sure he has another Hunny in Israel also!!
Your wife is getting her husband to take care of the Kids and Home while she continues to play around why should she stop? Because she is hurting you? She knows you are hurt by it and doesn't really care and knows also that you will take it!! Your opportunity to stop it has really past and if your not seriously willing to end your marriage then it will continue!!! She does not believe you.....action speaks louder than words!!!
