hope456 - he filed, what now?

[JennD]

Don't think that everyone else is moving thru this hell faster that you or better than you. All of us have our own parts to play in our own situations. You can't compare.

One thing that helps me when I feel I'm slipping backwards (which is alot) is to make a list of what D means - hopes, fears, finances, housing, parenting, future realtionship. Put it all on there.

Then go thru and cross out what is specualtion and guessing at the future.

Look at whats left. Can you handle it? Can you change any of it (keeping the persepective that you can only control you)?

I find looking that the list, in a very strange way, gives me a bit of comfort. And control of what I can control.

But I'm very much a list person.

You're not failing at DB. You're doing that best you can. Accept that your abilities will change as your emotions change. I think you are doing great. And I'll bet if this story was written by someone else you'd be right there, cheering them on.

Keep going. You are become a better person - the person your daughter thinks you already are!