I can see where you feel you haven't done "Plan A" long enough for her to "see your changes." I honestly don't know enough about your sitch to know if that's true or not, Oxford.
The problem, however, is once she went "in-your-face" with her affair, if you continue to Plan A her, she will lose all respect -- and therefore attraction, and therefore LOVE -- for you.
Exposed affairs -- when the betrayed spouse knows, and the wayward spouse KNOWS that you know, and you even DISCUSS it -- changes the dynamics of the whole damned thing.
