Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

So, communication was a major factor in our R issues. Now, with the long distance & the BD situation, communication is very sparse to say the least.

I have been dim since our last phone chat a week and a half ago which she initiated. We were to talk about the D process. We ended up talking a bit about our last fight, and then her updating me on her life. We were to talk a few days ago but neither of us has reached out. My current stance is to let her be the one to initiate any contact. This is a 180 for me as I have mainly been the one to initiate contact.

My dilemma is we need to discuss finances. But that naturally leads to the D process talk and, re-establishes the pattern of me initiating contact.

Finances was one of our specific communication issues. I always brought up our budget as an issue to discuss and she would often deflect and defer the talks.

With the long distance, my focus with any conversations we may have is to keep it positive. The long term goal of slowly filling up her love and trust tank.

I feel like I am walking on a tight rope here. Thoughts?