OM1 (married) lasted about 5 months, until I exposed the A and he ran. OM2 (divorced) was a quick rebound - came and went in a week and a half.
Now W is after OM3. He's a client. He has money. That's good because she knows how to spend it. He has been "separated" from his W for 5 years now without finalizing the D.
W is now fully convinced that I never loved her or the kids, she never loved me. I was a bad choice when she was down. (We were together 5 years before M!) She is essentially behaving as if we were already D'd, and she's shopping for next H.
So this isn't simple wayward fog. She's fully bought in to life after me. W can see current changes in me, but can't seem to let go of past wrongs. Single incidents are turned into lifetime traits. I would hate to live carrying around that kind of resentment. Thankfully I won't.
She knows from MC that I have a different perspective, but she's not the least bit inquisitive as to what the gap is. Moving on is her solution. I look at her as not having the courage to step up and deal with the issues. I expected more, but shouldn't have, I guess. Lord knows, I overlooked some pretty serious red flags. Personally, I had faith in the "let's try together for a year, then make the call, knowing we tried" approach, but I can't get her there.
I don't see much left here but the logistics. I still have a little prep work to finish up.
