We were trading emails about our relationship falling apart last Thursday. It was not going well... a lot of blame back and forth. I've been standing up more for myself and not taking the blame for stuff (which was an issue in our M), but I pushed too much onto her.
So I got it back on track and just wanted to summarize our marriage and told W that we are both to blame for our marriage not being what it could be, but she is totally responsible for the affair. I told W her issues with me were valid and I've been working on them. I took responsibility for my failures. I finished the email saying that most of all I regretted losing her, because she was worth fighting for.
At first she didn't respond, but Saturday morning she emails me saying we need to talk about what I said. Then a few hours later she calls me saying she really needs to talk to me in person. I told her I didn't see the point, and she starts crying.
Since then she seems different... I don't know. We don't have much contact. But she emailed yesterday morning thanking me for praying for her all this time. I never told her I have ... but she is right. I don't know how she knows this. I told her just because things didn't go my way doesn't mean I would stop. She said she really appreciated it.
Now, W is very good at manipulating me. I'm not sure what she wants out of this. I told her I won't be friends with her if she continues on with the OM. And I'm sticking to that.
