Hey Wonka! I'm feeling pretty good. I do feel drained, my life has been insanely busy. It is so very worth it though.

I've tried to keep things light with my W. We even got to the point we were joking and teasing each other a bit in our email messages. After that it seemed like she pulled back a bit again.

My stepmother and my W seem to get along quite well and she is the only one my W has openly agreed to see in person. Their talks have been positive when they've happened. It does feel a bit wrong though to have anyone else involved in our sitch.

My W did come to pick up our oldest D to take her to the gymnastics class that my W is helping out with. My W didn't want me in attendance so she definitely still has her walls way up.

I guess it's just a matter of time. Right now we're still speeding towards a D. She has her L, I have mine. We're in the disclosure phase of the process. My W did message me a while ago and said she wanted to settle without lawyers and I agree, it would be best to not have to use the L's for everything.

That being said, I don't want a D. It seems she definitely still does. I'm not sure there's anything I can do about that.


Me-40,W-37
D7, D5, S3
Separated Oct 3/2013
T 11 YRS
M 7 YRS