Mature Love

[ForeverYoung]

Looking back on the many posts here and still thinking…

I do not envy the position you find yourself in. I can only imagine how hard this has to be on YOU and YOUR W. Personally, I think it is always easier to call it a day when you are dealing with a spewing, cheating WAS. Then again, the decision to end a M is NEVER an easy one.

Boy, you got that right, Eric. Verbal commitment or not, my W is still in the M. Here and present. We do things together and get along well. She does nice things for me, and I for her. She is pleasant to be around. I like coming home to her, and like when she comes home. That's why I'm still here.

Is this "scraps" just because she's not ready to jump back in bed with me? I guess it all depends on perspective, but I do know many have stood in much more horrible situations, for even greater periods of time.

When you think of no regrets I think the tendency is to think about it from the perspective of leaving a R. However, I believe that it goes both ways. You do not want to STAY in a R that you will ultimately have regrets about. If staying in this R with your W will result in you having regrets about HOW long you stood and waited… I think you should consider this as well.

I think so too! Like most everyone here, I too want to be able to say I gave my M my all. My best. The most I could. I’ve also often said that I’d rather error on the side of holding on too long, trusting/hoping too much, than to give up too soon.

Bottom line: At least for now, my wife is still worth it.

Was that ever dealt with? For someone with sexual abuse in her history, this must have been a huge violation of trust...not that it wouldn't be otherwise.

Not yet, Heather. With MLC and all it couldn't have been. Time and space was the necessary prescription, along with building of trust. Now that we are farther along in these areas, hopefully we are nearing a place where we can address this issue.