Hi 25, I think you are getting me and someone else confused here. I don't have a special needs child, not even undiagnosed. My kids eat just fine. I also have a regular job with regular hours, it's just a start up and not making much money yet. The co I worked for closed a couple months before B-day. My wife and I talked and agreed that she made enough that I could start a co with a few people I knew in the same business, knowing it would take time to start making good money again. It has taken longer but all that has happened since B-day hasn't helped.
Look, my W HAS FILED. She got a lawyer, daddy gave him money and she filed. It's GOING TO HAPPEN. The kids are 18 and 14. Old enough to handle this and they are going to have to since no one BUT my W can stop it and I don't see that happening. She is on a tear and will not be stopped. Look I have seen her attitude change since her father got involved. I have done nothing to hurt her and she is angry and mean and uncaring. I worked and kept our girls in private school for years while she was a stay at home mother. I never would have cut her off from ANY money. I never said I was I in charge of money or she couldn't buy anything or anything like that. As long as we are married it belongs to both of us!
I also never said I needed to be more positive. The things I said are reality. My W contributes by working and doing laundry on the weekend. She does not cook. She has started cleaning every once in a while but when she feels like it. I clean the bathrooms, sinks, do dishes, the list goes on. She comes home plays music for an hour and goes to bed. She usually will go out after work if she wants company. Last night she actually spoke to our D14 for 5 min. That is unusual.
I don't know who you have me mixed up with. I'm sure it's hard sometimes to keep one sitch and the other straight in your mind. I can't imagine, if we have joint custody, why there even would be CS payments? If we both have the kids the same amount, don't they wash? Also, part of me believes that my W would rather not have to worry about having her D. That she wants the freedom from that but is afraid of becoming or being seen as being like her dad was with her and her brother. I really think she doesn't want to be bothered by taking her to private school and picking her up. This is why she won't consider it even if my dad paid.
I do believe there is a difference between reality and negative thinking. The reality now is I don't see a way to stop my W from ending this marriage. She has filed and I doubt she won't keep going as her father will keep on her about it. Like I said as long as she has someone pushing her, she will keep going. If her father wasnt there to keep telling her she has to do this or that, she very well may have just let it go. Yes, it's what she wants but I'm telling you from past experience that she has doubts until she has someone who will tell her she is right or OK to do this. She also feels now that she has her dad to be there for her like I have been. She doesn't like feeling alone and now she has him to talk to and get advice from.
I'm off to the lawyer. Oh, it's not easy to find the right lawyer, email or call, wait for call back, etc. I also need to try and work to make money to pay the lawyer. I hope it goes well. Thanks for your thoughts and advice. I do take others advice and have posted about it 25. I have talked about GAL but not 180's.
