Cadet- I have missed you. I do hope that you being busy has been a positive in your life. No apologies needed.

Maybe I should say I would like an apology - especially if things move forward together. I suppose it would validate the process from his end and help my healing if he were to re-enter my life..? Without one- I can still move forward live my life etc etc yet can't see how I could really share it with him authentically if he doesn't feel a need to apologize? Or am I looking at this wrong?

I suppose it doesn't matter for my own progress. I think part of the anger is this:

Years ago - after the affair started but before I found DB- I was snooping through H's phone and found text message to OW apologizing to her for all of the hurt and pain he has caused her.
That perhaps has not left me yet. How could he apologize to her and not see the pain and hurt he caused to me and the kids?

You are right Cadet. He is not ready.

Thank you for your encouragement and support. You help build my strength and confidence. Everything is going to be alright :-)

((((((Cadet )))))))

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home