Same. I notice the kids are afraid of their mom. Afraid to act out with her because of how she gets. Especially my son. With me? I've seen the other side and I appreciate the honesty even when I don't like it
Know what? There's a difference between parents even in the best of times. This isn't the best of times. You'll need to figure out what is dangerous and highly important (worth your time) and what is just different.
To do otherwise, will drive you insane. I do realize it's even more difficult with a child with special needs, but you don't need to take the BS that your H is throwing at you. He does things his way and you do them yours. You won't see eye to eye on these things, right?
Also keep in mind this is a point in time. What your H is going to learn is that he is seeking peace and he won't find it the way he is going about it. Your S will equalize things with his father at some point. You'll need to be there being you. When its all said and done.. your son will thank you for that and he will know you love him enough to do the things you're doing. You have two children with your H right now.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
