Used a lot of 'okay' and 'That's your perspective' instead of arguing or trying to defend myself when she started lashing out. When she started insulting me, I calmly let her know that I didn't appreciate the insults and there wasn't any need for them.. and if she couldn't speak with me in a civil manner, she could leave and we could do this another time when she could remain calm. When she would start to escalate things, I simply left the room. All in all, much better than yesterday.
She was hostile and angry when she first arrived tonight. By the time she left we were civil and polite to each other. I think I understand now why the initial anger, and probably even why she lashed out yesterday.
I called her to let her know I was at home and she was welcome to come over to get her things. When she arrived, she had to park along the curb (as I had parked in the middle of the driveway, not leaving enough room for her to pull in... not on purpose, but when I'm home alone I don't back *RIGHT* up to the garage so a second vehicle can park behind me). Lastly, She had to ring the doorbell to what was her home 24 hours ago to be let in. I'm sure the sting of this new reality hit her, and she reacted on it.
I would like to think the tears/yelling/etc is her projecting her own self-anger in how she's put herself in this position.
-Pluto
H: 29 W: 27 No Kids
Together: 12/04 (9 years) Living: 02/09 (5 years) Married: 06/13 (11 months) ILYBNILWY: 01/14 Separate Bedrooms: 01/14 Discovered Affair: 02/14 (On-going) W Moved Out: 06/14
