Totally agree with you.
I really am sorry for the hurt I caused my wife. For a few months I became very withdrawn, short tempered and stressed. Which made my wife feel very lonely and caused her to think that there was a better life for her elsewhere.
These were desperate actions for her to find happiness.
(Some people jealous of our previous happy marriage were keen to assist that too.)

However, my responsibility in this has to be accounted for.
Every change my wife wanted, I also wanted for myself too. I wasn't happy in any aspect of my life outside of the wife I had.
My changes will be permanent. I have no desire to return to being the way I was for that short time.

Suspected EA: Feb 2013
Bomb drop: Mid March 2013
Separation: Mid April 2013
(I fought for marriage)
Filed for Divorce: April 2014
Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014