Take a deep breath (I'm doing the same). Sometimes it's best not to borrow trouble and just live in the now?
Good luck on your job search!
BTW, I was a little worried about stuff myself. Then some things happened that completely changed the landscape. So hang in there. Remember that when one door shuts, another one (or two) opens.
Child support is a formula and I have yet to hear of a situation where it can't be modified every 3 years or sooner if things change on either end. That being said... and most orders for child support cease on a child's 19th birthday.
Here's what I was told very recently (remember, my D is turning 18 next March and I'm knee deep in this stuff). If my D lives with me, it's MY choice. And if she went to live with her dad, it would be HIS choice. The state feels that I could emancipate her and that her dad is not on the hook for it.
Now I'll say what I need to say. You and I both know that her living standard would deteriorate if you were to do that. So does her dad. It's probably in HER best interest for her to live with you, at least for awhile after she becomes an adult. And if her dad was the good-hearted person you have stated he is, then he can help you out. HOWEVER, he could also use the trust account as his funding target.
Another tidbit for you: your special needs trust will have to be modified once you are divorced. This is because you both are legally entitled to having different beneficiaries. So you have some legal wrangling to do anyway. Talk it out with your H once you have the facts from Texas.
Nothing about this process is straight forward, Will. It's opened a few cans of worms for me too. I'm still learning and will probably still keep finding out stuff as I go along. If it makes you feel better, our SNT was formed in 2003 when we were separated but not divorced. I just found out that the state could challenge it right now on 2 accounts: 1) we're divorced, and 2) it has been more than 10 years since it was done. So my XH and I are motivated to get this addressed this summer. I just need to finish my transition classes (next week) before I make an appointment with the attorney.
Good luck!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
