Well...feel like a whole lot of good DBing got undone in one fell swoop...

As I suspected, dinner with W's parents got cancelled tonight so she can hang out with them alone to talk about moving in. I'll get the details from her when she returns in a couple of hours. In the meantime I'm just going to try to keep up the PMA and positive self-talk... and try to keep it as pleasant and light as possible when she let's me know her plan.

Telling the kids is going to be rough... as perceptive as I know kids can be, they have heretofore been blissful unaware that W and I are even having an marital problems. I also know kids are resilient, but I am very worried about how this is going to hit them.

I guess until she moves out I will keep up any/all of the relationship-oriented 180s W is still amenable to. And then, once she goes, I guess I stick with the GAL and start going more LRT.

I can't say I'm not scared of what is ahead... but I see and accept my role in all of this...and I accept that I am the only person I control.

H: 43
W: 37
M: 11 years
T: 12 years
S: 11
D: 8
ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14
MC started: 9/22/14
Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14
Piecing: 10/20/14