Yes, she will (object to custody). Her mother hated her father for leaving and bashed him (her words) and that is why he and her didn't have a good relationship. So, it's very important to her to not be the "bad guy". If she was honest with herself I know she would rather not have to worry but she has told herself that she will NEVER do what her dad did. She has now done all that EXCEPT abandon the kids. It will be important that she is seen as not doing anything to hurt them and that she is SEEN as a good mom. When my oldest wanted to spend the summer with her boyfriend at 17. She actually said she did that with her boyfriend and had so much sex she was lucky she didn't get preg.and it was such a found memory that she didn't want to say no BUT she was afraid of what people would say about her and the kind of parent she is! If I get custody, she will be afraid that she will be seen as a "bad mother".
As for what my W would say about me...so far the only things she can tell me are I watch too much TV, she doesn't "trust" me, that I should have handled money issues better. The most she can say is she just doesn't feel the "right kind" of love for me any more and she can't help that. Believe me I really would like more than that (like what didn't she 'trust" me about. 20 years ago I messed up (on previous thread) and took drugs for about a year. Since then I haven't once slipped up. I hardly drink let alone do that! I have given her zero reasons not to trust me and it didn't come up once in 20 years until B-day.
