Oh yes, 25, makes perfect sense. Yes, my W has bigger problems than peri-menopause, that is certain. She stated in the beginning she has no idea why she is feeling so horrible. She even used the MLC word! She hasn't been right since she was depressed. She said she was isolated and went "a little crazy" doing things with her new found friends from work. What she did was stop doing anything with me or the kids and spending all her free time with them or just doing nothing at home. She was always too tired to go do anything with us. She became over-whelmed with everything and just let everything go. Stopped cooking dinners, cleaning, never had time to talk to the kids. Every time our D's came to talk to her she would tell them she was tired and talk later. You can't do that with a teenager! This is why both D's are so angry at her. She doesn't want to remember any of this. Never happened, or now she says it was because she hated being with me so stopped doing anything with the kids but that just wasn't how she said she felt at the time.
She has become very worried that her father will die before she and him can "make things right" (told me just this many times over the last few years AND that until he is dead, there is always a chance he will change). His cancer helped push her into MLC, I'm sure. She has wanted to believe he really loved her no matter what his actions said. Now, he IS giving her attention AND support. It's like this has become the magic thing she needs to do so he will love her again. No mind reading here, I've seen him go from no contact and being awful to her to texting and calling every day! It's like she found a way to get his attention and she is feeding off it. She has even started to call his wife "mom"! This is a woman who broke up her family and she NEVER called her that before. Even now said her dad wasn't to blame for what he did, he was just too "hurt" by the divorce (a divorce he wanted so he could have his new OW!). Yes, emotional problems that are hurting me and everyone I love. One reason it's been so hard for me to just give up and say she's changed. No one in their right mind changes this much, this fast. I worry what is going to happen when her dad does die. She really lost it when he told her his cancer is back, she will be devastated! Not my problem, I know and something I need not think about now as my plate is full. Hell, at one point I thought about having an intervention with her mom's side of the family things got so weird. Glad I didn't but..... She's not evil I know that and I think her actions are evil, not her. I don't think her intent is evil. I think she does care. It's just that she cares more about finding a way to feel better and leaving her marriage is the thing she wants to try and really believes is the answer! Everyone and everything else be damned!
