Matt, since I recently had that convo with my kids, I would HIGHLY suggest you and W do it TOGETHER.
However, if that is not possible, I re-wrote what you posted in to how I would approach it:
""You need to know that things between your mom and I aren't getting better. I know that I told you that my dad was going to pay to send you to (school she wants to go to) but I don't think that can happen now. We both want what's best for you and may not always agree on what that is but I can tell you I will always take what you want into account. You will always be my daughter and I will always be a part of your life, you mean the world to me and your mother and that will never change. Things are going to be different and we don't know yet what is going to happen, but we will be fine. I know it's hard not knowing. For now just know that I'm here and if you have any questions or want to talk I'm always available and I promise to always tell you the truth as best as I know it.""
Personally, I do not think it is appropriate to bash/blame W in this convo, for your daughters sake and your own dignity. The truth will be known, trust me on that.
Please put the butthurt aside for this convo, show her a man who is strong, reliable in control of himself...she really needs that right now, more than you know...
Just my 2 cents.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
