It's more to do with letting her know that I can finally see what she was going through in hindsight, now that the anger and hurt have subsided in me. I was under stress and grieving at the time this happened, then as my wife left she saw nothing but hurt and anger from me. I haven't had a clear head and heart in a while to see that.
She did try to express her feelings from that time recently, but in my brooding state I saw it as little more than justification for her actions.
I just want peace for both of us. Regardless of whether reconciliation is in our future.
Suspected EA: Feb 2013 Bomb drop: Mid March 2013 Separation: Mid April 2013 (I fought for marriage) Filed for Divorce: April 2014 Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014