Wife in MLC and getting ready to leave #3

[25yearsmlc]

Hi 25,
Had an appt for a consult but last night found out that it was with the firm my W is using! So I have to try again. By signing the wavier, this means she is filing. She has no grounds to sue me for D but I guess you don't need those anymore. Here there are very few actual grounds for D. Don't know how that works but I'd guess it just doesn't matter in the end.

I just can't believe she went from separation to this as soon as her father came here. She even admitted he came only to get her to go this! She had lied and told us it was for kids graduation ("I never lie") she has even become mean about it like she was told to just harden her heart. It's like she is feeding off the fact her dad is giving her attention. Attention she wanted all her life. Too bad she has to become just like him to get it!

In Texas, it's indeed very easy to divorce. And it's not "time consuming" either. This is the down side of "no fault" divorces, and if I'm not mistaken, your situation would not qualify for any of the fault grounds, there.

But divorce is only a piece of paper (15% of divorced couples, end up remarrying their former spouses)...and you'll have children that bind you forever.

So you'll have to stop thinking of her as an evil person. You know, if what you say is accurate about who she WAS before, and how inconsistent this behavior is with her real self, and how dysfunctional her R was with her father, and how the rest of her family (her mom, for instance) sees her behavior,

then I think she's got some serious emotional problems, and I can't see how that is in dispute.

I don't mean "hormones" b/c this is a lot more extreme than ANY "peri-menopausal" event, plus it's a useless endeavor seeing it that way.

Have you considered any of the comments I've made about working on yourself and feeling empowered by it? There are plenty of lawyers in Texas.

Now you KNOW you need representation. So there is some clarity. Your job is to protect the kids and your assets...without a scotch and born policy towards your wife.

Make sense?
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