Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

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Thanks Wonka. That validation would have been pure Genius. will try this again.
Was gonna ask you DBers...I planned on just being quiet and letting her speak and interjecting "This is not what I want" only if asked. DIdnt want to appear combative or trying to triangle against WAW. would get whole family reactive for sure.

I wondered; should I just be quiet and empathetic without crying or a little upbeat?...naw upbeat means i am happy this is going through.

Gonna meditate, pray and say in mantra "This is how she feels now, but this isnt over yet....believe nothing and half of what she says..." do i validate in front of parents or does that look like i am agreeing "your D has had to put up with alot" and add "but i am changing?" needy?