Yes, dropping the rope is for me. I am just concerned that I have dragged it out so long & that I have enabled his MLC while I was his anchor. I feel that I have been slowly exiting...he may not even notice or care.
You're right, he may not notice or care. Is that why you are doing it, so he will notice? Will you pick up the rope if it doesn't "work" for you?
If you are looking back to see if he's looking.......then he thinks it's just another game. And it will be, unless you stop focusing on him (which I realize is difficult).
Tell me something very honestly. Are you wanting to use this "dropping the rope" as your last resort to get him to see what's right in front of him?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
