I know h and are are nowhere near the same place with parenting right now. H makes sure s is fed. Homework may happen occasionally on his nights. Baths even more occasionally. S does not act up or rebel with h because nothing is expected of him. (My opinion)

I on the other hand feel my job as a parent is to help my child gain responsibility and safety navigate a world that some times makes us scared and anxious. So we go out and do things even though h thinks I should just let him stay home if he wants and watch tv. He does homework and cleans up his messes and helps me walk the dogs etc. He needs 1 parent to be a parent. Yes he throws things and hits me and tantrums. We work with the doctor and the therapist and we will get there.

Georgia Belle I know you are an animal lover so rest assured "no rough touch to animals" is a big part of the plan!

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15