Thinking back, I too was worried about that for a while. I used that for my kids' best interest by manipulating an angry person into thinking she was getting at me by doing things for the kids.
I see that differently now than I did at the time.
That action helped foster a dynamic of competitiveness. That was hard to notice and hard to stop.
Your H sounds more like a teen than a parent. He won't see it that way, and I am cognizant that this is based on your perspective
When it comes to the TV etc? Ridiculousness like that should be dropped to the floor. If he really feels that way, let him take you to court. The judge will laugh too
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
