hope456 - accepting my new reality

[JennD]

Hope, some story here. D7 let the "cat out of the bag" 2 weeks ago while chating on the phone with my MIL. H told me that when he took the phone back from daughter, that MIL asked if she just found out something she wasn't supposed it? H said yes and that they would talk later.

As of last thursday (4 days ago) H hadn't spoke to MIL again and filled her in.

(3 weeks ago, I reached out to MIL as she and I we not on the best of terms, but we were in years past - we were very close - I apologized for my behaviour with no excuses and asked that we - she and I - work on having a better relationship. She wrote back and was very pleased with my email and agreed taht whats past is past and that we need to work on having a good relationship. She didn;t know then about R)

So since MIL has been sort of told about our seperation, nothing. I take it with a grain of salt int hat fact that we were on not so great terms until very recently and that she doesn;t know what's going on exactly. I;ve not reached out to her either.

And in our situation, the seperation was H to tell his family as well, same as you Hope.

She is his mother, no matter how close you are with her. Unless she feels your H has complete wronged you, she will side with him. For now. Give her time. She may not know how to react.

Stop mind reading...its usually much worse than reality!