Controversial Option. Apologising for causing an a

[RedHawk98]

While most of us have probably clobbered our Wayward Spouses with morality and 180's, I was wondering how many of us have used our betrayal to better ourselves.

Betrayal is wrong. But, how many of us have looked at ourselves in the mirror and wondered what we did that might have lead to it.

I know that a lot of stress related faults contributed to my marriage decline. That resulted in my wife feeling lonely, hurt, angry and bored enough to run off with her boss.
Who in all honesty, is nowhere near as good a partner for her as me at my best.

We must be the better option for our spouses to WANT to be remorseful and consider reconcilliation.

I have realised that I am partially responsible for my wife's actions in this respect.
I am going to apologise for making her feel lonely, hurt, angry and bored. That although I was very stressed out to do that, I still want to take responsibility for it.

We lead by example. If we can show respect and dignity by recognising their feelings, only a complete narcissist would not respond in a similar fashion.

A peaceful and easy road needs to be laid for reconcilliation. Even when we feel that we have been wronged.

My only decision now is whether I send this by email, or in a handwritten card.
The card would be a 180 in itself.