H had asked the neighbor to watch the kiddo on Saturday from 12-7 so he could go play in a gold tourney. It was his weekend with her. The neighbors got tickets given to them for Jimmy Buffett, and really wanted to go. They asked if I would see if he could get there at 6 instead, on Saturday morning. I do realize it's last minute, but they are doing him a favor.
H flipped out, started taking it out on me. I told him that this was not my fault, and I would not let him take it out on me. He kept at it. I should have walked off, but didn't. I told him he said he was moving out next weekend. He wasn't going to see her as much after that. I thought, that as a good dad, he would want to spend as much time as possible with her, especially since he went out last weekend with the guys.
He stormed out Saturday, then called me and started going off. I asked him why he was so mad at me, when he could go play golf any other weekend. I asked if he wanted me to cancel my plans to take care of the kiddo all weekend so he could go out. "No, I just know you are trying to trick me in to something." I said I wasn't, just that if it was so important that he go see friends, I would be happy to take her and spend more time with her. That set him off more.
I told him I understood he was frustrated, and wished there was something I could do. H then went off and said "you have no idea, you probably love this."
The biggest thing to get out of this conversation was when he brought up the past, then told me he liked being married and I [screwed] him by "forcing" him to file by being a b****. Wow. Ok, that's the first time he has ever said he enjoyed being married. Every other time, it's joking about how wives nag, whining about "never" being able to do ANYTHING, etc. etc. You know, being a grown up and forgoing trips with the guys as much as they go because you have a young daughter and a wife that works two jobs. At this point, I felt I needed to end the conversation quick.
I told him I hoped he had a great golf game. He said "FINE. BYE." and hung up. OH WELL. I got ready, and started the drive to my friends house. Pit stopped for a couple monsters and a gatorade. I was SO excited to go out with the girls. I have not been out since I found out I was pregnant with the kiddo. Long story short, I missed her terribly, but had a wonderful time.
H was texting me all night. Pics of the baby, asking me how it was going etc. The next AM, texted me more pictures of her, asked how I was. I sent him a bunch of pictures of the night, said I was great and was getting breakfast and then leaving.
Got back to the house, H was in a stellar mood. Went to the store for me for groceries for both us and the baby. Made dinner. Wanted to hang out and watch TV. Wanted to ML. Wanted to be what I think is the perfect husband. It was strange to be honest, especially after the outburst the day before.
We took the baby to a park as soon as she was up from a nap. H wanted people to take pictures of all three of us together. However, as we were passing the apartment complex where he is SUPPOSEDLY moving he said "that's my new place." I asked if he was still planning on moving June 9th, and he just said "I don't know." I simply said "ok" and we had a fun time at the park.
H is taking off work as am I on Friday so we can go do an outdoorsy activity we both really enjoy together.
This morning, H said he wished I could stay in bed and cuddle when I got up for work.
H is back to sleeping in the same bed.
H is back to grabbing and holding my hand.
I'm in a better place mentally with anger management and just in general. I'm happy to be able to get out and do things with friends again. It's been way too long. I'm happy when I wake up in the morning. I don't dread going home nearly as much. After H's outburst on the phone, I dreaded it a little on Sunday, but after getting there, I was on cloud 9.
Today starts another week
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
