1wish, You really have got to get a hold of yourself, you're not acting rationally. I understand the trauma that you are experiencing, but you MUST calm yourself. If you keep acting emotionally, and chasing after your wife this way you will end up pushing her right out the door! You are making yourself LESS attractive to her by pursuing her in this way. Read your own posts- would you get back together with that guy?
This will not be a quick fix. Do you think you'll read a book, or try a tactic posted on the Internet somewhere and suddenly your W will be back in your arms again? Sorry, doesn't work that way. Your wife is no longer "in love" with you. It took a long time for her feelings to go away, it will take a long time to get them back -maybe never if you don't "cock slap" your own darned self into reality.
I'm quite sure that if your wife did come back today that you'd turn right back into the old you in short order. You need this time as much as she does to understand what you did wrong, what you need to do differently and to really understand, in your heart, why your wife is hurting so that you never do it again. You're not there yet.
