I am frustrated... in reading from another thread about a mlc husband who faced reality when his wife dropped the rope. I question does it really take for these guys to go THAT far, before they realize what is in front of their face? Does ANYONE ever appreciate it while they still have their "anchor"? GRRRRR.
Yes, it appears so.
What made you decide your xbf was MLC and not WAS? The "symptoms" are very similar.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!