Ughhh... S's therapist has me using behavior charts all day long. I can see it starting to make a difference. S is responding to the structure. H is not interested in any behavior modification because he says s acts fine with him so the problem is me. 3 pediatrician and the family therapist said that a child will always limit test more with 1 parent. It is usually the patent that the child feels safest with. What h took from that is that s thinks I am a push over and that he likes h better. Therefore h is the better parent. Infuriating. He doesn't even know the names of half his doctors or teachers.

Anyway. We had a great morning but s had meltdown midday. I was having a hard time getting the harness on h's MLC dog and s was anxious to go to dog park. He threw a glass of milk at tv and now tv is not working. H says all my fault. He says I owe him a tv.

Now here is the part that hurt the most. He says I shouldn't have even been putting on the harness and should stop acting like this is my dog. H brought this dog home several months ago without asking if it was OK to bring a very large puppy into the house we both share. S is very mean to dog. Our senior canine is having a hard time with new dog. The cats still hide in closet all day. But h wanted a dog for his new life of freedom. Well most days he lives for work at 6 am. 3 to 4 nights a week he goes out till after midnight. When he is here he has the dog put away in the basement. Who takes care of him? Me. And if I am in the house the dog is by my side. But I am not allowed to love him.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15