YEah exposing OM will only cause your WAW to continually defend her reasons for leaving you...whereby reinforcing them in her mind through repetition. The more private you keep the more embarrassing issues, the better your relationship/possible friendship with her will be. Causing her more anger towards you now is the last thing you want to do and I personally don't believe that exposing OM accomplishes anything but possible satisfying a need for vengeance against her. My WAW and I just tell people we grew apart and it didn't work out, it's not really anyone else's business as to the what's and why's of the split. It keeps something "secret" between you two, which, after all, is what friends do that you confide in.

Last edited by ItHurts; 06/02/14 02:46 AM.
ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14