OM leaving the picture does not equate to her coming back to you. You're better off working privately on what you need to improve than "outing her" to people outside your marital relationship. Most people will assume there are more sides to the story than they'll ever know, and your W will most likely feel pressed to defend and stand by her choice.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.