KdogGS Journey Part V- Settlement

[adinva]

I think it's pretty clear who the one with the questionable mental status is. If it made her more comfortable to transfer the ammo via the lawyer, who are you to get offended by her taking care of her own need for comfort? Your sense of pride and need to control what she thinks about you are the impetus for your defensive email.

If she fears you, it is ridiculous to think that sending her an email telling her her fears are unfounded is going to have any effect in your favor. Let it go, let her get over her fears when she sees nothing happens. Your hurt feelings are less important than her fears, which are very real to her.

I sympathize because my H has the wherewithal to kill us, and he has been unstable or unpredictable in the time leading up to and including our separation. I've made him feel mad and sad, and I've seen behaviors in him I'd never have predicted.

He also has full training and credentials, and a perfect background check, and no actual behavior that should cause me to fear. My fears are irrational. He'd be super mad to think I fear him. But I read the papers and I know estranged H's kills their wives and kids sometimes. Sometimes right in my own neighborhood. And ammo is what they do it with. Allow her her unreasonable fears and let it go. It's not about you as much as about her.