Sorry Lance Sijan is still tied up over at the Hanoi Hilton after being shot down in his F-4 and then winning the medal of honor so I will try to answer for him
Yes Stayed is reconciled with her husband, her bomb drop was around Oct 2005.
I think he was in the FOG about 3 years and then even when they got back together things were still not totally smooth.
Originally Posted By: stayed
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Could you or your H answer this question? When your H 'woke up' was it suddenly or gradual, Did he start to see that he was living a fantasy and yet run back into the fantasy and in their word ping pong about? What really made him realize; beside you moving on and scaring him that his happy ending may not be a reality, when he was ready; (in his movie) that he had to do something Now and not tomorrow??
Sorry, I didn't get back to you sooner. I asked my h personally about your question. No, it was not SUDDEN, it was very, very slow. He says he started having more and more realizations that the situation he was in, was a HUGE FANTASY. He also became worried that he could end up with NOBODY.... ME OR HER... OR ANYBODY else for that matter. He told me it was like having 2 people living within him. One was his intellect, that knew he was being really stupid.... and then another emotional person, who wanted to believe that his relationship with the OW was different, then others, his was true love. He said the emotional one was much more powerful then the intellect, although, he thinks he hated to admit he could be JUST as stupid as anybody else.
Everything about us annoyed them, even if we got hurt, somehow, it was our fault. We were doing it to get their attention... or just get any attention. Really crazy thinking.... they are the teenagers, they never were.... defiant, mean, belligerent, arrogant, aggressive, passive aggressive, not very nice teens and would have been quite a handful for any parent.
hope this helps .... hugs...
I was trying to find the exact time line but I can't for the moment. Just know that Stayed advises all LBS to look out for themselves first. Really we can only control ourselves and we must protect ourselves too.
