If only they would realize that all the effort they are expending trying to not feel guilty or move on or find happiness or whatever away from us could *just as easily* be spent trying to do those things WITH us.
If only...I just remind myself (repeatedly) that he must really, really feel that this is the only option and he can't see any other way. It's very difficult to accept, but I'm getting there (at least I think I am, most days).
