No actually it was totally and completely different when we were together. I would take her every call right away or respond to every e-mail right away. SO no, it wasn't like that until now...in NC, because she's only calling to see if I'm still Plan B while she sorts out what to do about her feelings for OM. When we were married we would talk...it's just she never came out and said what the problem was, she's a self-admitted co-dependent and she always puts everyone else's needs before her own...not just me in our marriage, but with everyone...her parents, sister, friends, etc. So when I say I don't want to talk to her, it means I want to maintain NC, she's too confused to talk to me right now...she still needs to "find herself." Any communication with her now would be counterproductive because both of us are very uncomfortable in each others' presence right now...that was clear the last time she popped in her 10 days ago. It's too soon to talk I think as it's only been a month since the "bomb" and less than a month since she moved out with parents.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
