What is my Next Move?

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SO I have watched some of Michele's Videos and read DB.

It does not seem like she says I should leave or kick her out...

I just started seeing a PhD who was our MC, then we stopped seeing her when it looked like we were OK, then after DD when the wife moved back home she felt conflicted so WS started seeing this PHD as an IC.

Now I started seeing her as a relationship coach.

She wants me to stay, but get a life...
And work on me.

Big question, has anyone on this board actually seen an affair end with a wife who keeps traveling to meet and live with the OM?

I am starting to feel like R is a pipe dream....