Barrybran - New Thread

[Barrybran]

I just had a bit of a 'saw that going differently in my mind' moment. I responded to my wife and included the parts about 5LL. I figure if she genuinely wanted to know my side of the story I felt it helped to explain how we were on different pages with one another. She told me she felt that separation was still the answer for her right now and that she didn't know what the future held.

A while later she starts talking about 5LL. We did the quizzes and she had me down to a tee. My answers for her were off. Granted, I could only answer based on my experiences with my wife but I expected our answers to be closer together. She found it "interesting", subtly highlighting that I didn't know her as well as I perhaps should. So I may have inadvertently made things a little harder for myself tonight.

On the bright side, I know what she feels her love language to be (words of affirmation) and I wasn't too far off when I did the quiz for her months ago and came up with a primary language of gifts. One concerning thing was that I felt she valued acts of service much more than she does and quality time far less than she does. In fact, quality time came in second for her alongside gifts.

She said to me that this stuff doesn't work for everyone. She's right. I'll take the glass-half-full approach because I've got a pretty good map I feel.