Thank you 25, For most of my marriage I worked while my wife was stay at home mom. Why? Because she wished she had that kind of childhood. Now, I just found out that my wife no longer will be financing our family. No, she let me spend us into over draft by not bothering to tell me she stopped putting her pay into our joint account. Now she tells me I KNEW she was leaving in May. (See talked about maybe doing that but never definite). I will be left with nothing. She "may" pay my gas money so I can get to work. She won't believe a word I say, and thinks this is fine. AND SHE STILL HASN'T SPOKEN TO OUR D14 about leaving!
There is no way I can afford a lawyer. No way to pay my bills. No way to even buy food. (She even said "no more food"). I started looking for a new job this week but it will take time. She now doesn't care at all about me or even how the girls will see this. My D18 already hates what she is doing, wait until she finds this out!
I don't know this person. She has become her father in every way. I can't look at her! I can't stand being near her! I'm afraid that not showing my unhappiness with her actions will be Impossible. I can't afford gas to leave the house!
Amazing how quickly things changed when she had someone to back her actions, no matter how awful, her dad. It doesn't matter that its him as its not his fault. All she needed was someone, anyone to say she was right doing what she is. Up until than, she had no one telling her she was right.
I don't know how I'm going to live. I definitely don't know how I'm going to get a lawyer. My D14 definitely won't be going to the school she wants because I'll need to ask my father for help and he can't do both. All the years she could have gone back to work but didn't. All the years I stuck by her when she was so depressed and did nothing. And she does this?
I actually for the first time feel actual hate for her! She still hasn't spoken to her kids but is out finding places to live and stopping support. At least face facts and be honest with your kids. She wants me to not talk badly about her to them and I haven't once. She keeps this up and I won't need to!
Sorry. This post is full of self pity and despair but right now that is all I feel. I will get myself together I'm sure but for now this is all I feel.
As for being the best dad I can be, I've tried to do just that for years. I'm sure I made mistakes but always put them first. Not only didn't my wife care, she is jealous of my relationship with them. I tried when she was depressed to make the kids understand she was sick when they were so mad at her. I tried so hard and it didn't make a bit of difference!
