Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden on you guys

[Barrybran]

Can I make these changes whilst still living with her?

Yes. I still live with my wife six months on. No signs of reconciliation. I've made changes for myself, they've been noticed by my wife and most importantly, I feel better about myself.

And she says that she might even stay with me for my sake.. what are the chances that happening? Because that buys me more time to make her loving again..

Believe nothing she says. You'll hear a lot of to-ing and fro-ing. Actions speak louder than words. She's not going anywhere? Great, focus on you. She moves out? That svcks so focus on you.

I dont know what to do should I form a crisis in this situation and act as if the marital door is closing by moving out or shall I wait it out dor another 2 months when shes going to give me a decision?

My wife has put a timeline on decisions several times and has never stuck to it. Tensions have eased when I've pulled my head in. Even now, she's trying to figure things out and there are no signs of movement in any direction on her end. Ignore the timeline and use the time wisely to make positive changes in your own life.

DB and DR will clarify a lot of things you will have read here. Until then, stick to the 37 rules. Refer to them daily if you have to until they stick in your mind. It's hard. Very hard. It gets easier with practice.